18 May How to help yourself when you’re anxious
“What your proudest moment in your life?,” my friend asked. I replied swiftly, “I am much happier right now.”
I had what you had before, the anxiety still living in there. It’s just that “anxiety” become a noise rather than a voice. There are days that I work day and night, keeping myself active just to feel I am OK. There are days that I can’t sleep and I have to drink just to sleep. There are days that I lost a bunch of friends telling me that I am acting weird after I opened up myself. They don’t owe me anything and this is just who they are. It took me quite a while to be where I am now.
You, you owe yourself. Put time to learn about yourself. Shift the focus of worrying how people thought about you, focus on yourself instead. If you always wondering if you have done enough for people to like you enough? You have done enough. You are not mother Teresa. If you still count yourself as someone, if changing yours count as changing others live, then you should start doing it. If you don’t put yourself first, no one will do it for you and that is selfish. Self-selfish.
Hang out with people that empower you, cut off negative people and negative thought that does not serve you. You still need friends, just that you choose which friend to be with. I am an introvert, there are many time that I think being with just myself is totally OK. There are time that I throw myself into a community that I am not familiar and that makes me heal and grow much faster and in the right track.
You can’t change what had happened but you have the power to change how you see your future. Focus and shift your energy on things you can manage such as your mindset. Things doesn’t get easier, the more we grew, the more responsibility and problems we need to solved. It is almost impossible to forget the pain that we went through, you don’t have to. Just deal with it differently.
Reading all these doesn’t matter if you don’t take action. Practice what you think is right, don’t just say it for nothing.
Books that I invest in and helped when I am deep down low,
- The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life. Buy Here: https://amzn.to/3bCB7Df
- Be Happy, Always: Simple Practices For Overcoming Life’s Challenges and Living Each Day With Joy (For Fans of Chicken Soup for the Soul). Buy Here: https://amzn.to/2LFNvYN
- If I Could Be Simple (Chinese Edition) by Peter Su. Buy Here: https://amzn.to/2LFix32